I
totally understand why parents decide to stay home with their kids. I
knew in theory that taking care of your own babies is great, but I
honestly couldn't quite believe it. Before I had my baby, I was always
so happy to return a baby back to their parents, and go home without a
child. This is because it was not
my child. At times it is hard to be at home with Vigo (my child), but this love that parents talk about is real. As a non-parent, I
was sceptical about whether it really was great to raise kids. But
honesly it is great and I get why parents are a bit crazy about their children.
I am staying home and playing with Vigo as my priority 3 days a week. In
these days I love on him and talk to him as my main job. Then whenever
he is sleeping or he is content to play on his own (which he can handle for -5 minutes now! Woo Hoo!), I can get something
done, like my morning pages, wash the dishes or take a shower. The
dishes and mail can wait. I can do the laundry while babbling at him
about the nice clothes he has or brushing the fresh towel over his face
as he blinks and smiles. I can even take sold artworks to the post
office on a walk with him. You may be thinking, well just wait until
they are running around or you have two. I know.
But right now, I am loving, loving on Vigo and he has changed my life
and priorities. He has interrupted my life so much and I am so happy
that he has.
What an amazing
job. To be home and be
present with my child. That is all I
have
to do. The rest, Domink and I have agreed can happen if and when we
have time throughout the day. Or when we really want to and the dirt is
bothering us. Dinner is not even expected. That can be a joint effort. I
love living this natural, creative and collaborative lifestyle.
On
the road when we were splitting all the duties and were both always
responsible for Vigo's needs. We were providing for him, but not really
with him,
we gave him 50% of our attention often times. It doesn't feel good. I
know we all have to do this sometimes, just to get things done. But with
this sharing of "Vigo Days" we can give him 100% of our attention much
more of the time because he is our main focus. This baby is the
luckiest! He gets childcare from either one of his parents. He gets our
full attention frequently throughout the day and we all love it.
The
only way we can keep this lifestyle up is by getting a bit of parental
leave money (about 500€ a month), and making money selling art and
playing music. We also have been trying to skim down our expences to the
bare minimum. We're going to be skimping and saving here and there for
these two years away from our day jobs. We are finally out of debt so we
can earn less if we need to, but with art sales and music gigs and
sales we are going to get through!
Thanks for reading lovelies.
Anna
SUPPORT US! *shameless plug
-If you'd like to buy an artwork of mine, there are still works on sale on instagram
@olivegreenanna. -You could buy Dominik's
record or a t-shirt.
-Or if you'd like to book Dominik for a show, you can book his
folk pop band, his
jazz band, or his
elecro-synth band.